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How to live a life without regrets

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." -Mark Twain

We have all met someone who came towards the end of their life and regretted not doing the things that they had always wanted and now they were too old to do it. In a sense they had missed the window of opportunity. You might say to yourself that it will never happen to you, that if you really wanted to do something you'd just go out and do it. That you'd be one of those rare specimens that live for the moment without any regrets.

While indeed you would be rare, rarer are those who say they live without regrets and actually be right. The reality is that we all have wanted to do something but didn't because we convinced ourselves that it wasn't the right time, that you weren't ready or that you will do it one day. We are great at justifying why we don't follow our dreams, minimizing our dreams such that we expect less from ourselves and to dream small.

So if you think that you are doing everything you have always dreamed you would then you just aren't dreaming big enough for your life.

If you want to ensure that you won't be another soul that comes to the end of their life with a niggling regret then here are a few simple steps that you can do right now to make your life one without regrets.

Stop just meaninglessly living out your daily routine without questioning what you are doing. It's so easy for us to get caught up in our routine that we have come to take it for granted. Start questioning what it is you want out of life. You can start by taking an afternoon out from your normal routine and just find a quiet spot in a local park. Take out a notebook and pen and just start writing everything you want to do, experience or have in your lifetime. Keep writing and don't stop write as many as you can. But make sure you write them out as though failure is not possible, write out your wildest dreams you can think off.

Now that you have your dreams written down in your notebook, simply pick one or two and get started working towards them today. Take a little step everyday towards the achievement of that dream. For example if it is a travel related dream then maybe your little steps could be to get some brochures, research on what you need to do or bring, think about the money you need to save.

There is no reason why you can’t be living your dreams everyday. Not only will it put some spark into your everyday routine but it also gives you something fun and exciting to work towards.

Written by: Rahul Bodat, pictures where added by me!  If you want you can check out more about Rahul's here! And as always rate, comment and share!

Living a Third Sex Life

People express their fearfulness and ignorance of gay peole. Arguring that we are unnatural or aganist nature. Imagine a place where no one cared who you love, or even judged you for loving the person you are with. Or even able to marry the one you love, without someone snickering in the background or being mistreated. Imagine a place where you were not force to marry a women but could openly marry a man. a place where people didn't try to take away your basic right. If you can imagine such a world then your not far from reality; there was a time when no cared who you loved. 





During the Vedic era in India there were three sex groups first or straight males,  second was women, and the third was the neutral. The third sex or tritiya-prakriti are considered neutral gender or napumsaka because they did not engage in procreation. Napumsaka was divided into five groups: children, the elederly, the impotent, the celibate, and the third sex. The third sex which include gays, lesbians, transgender, intersex, and bisexual. Each are considered sexual neutral by Vedic definition and were protected and believed to bring good luck.
In ancient Vedic society everyone was integrated as a part of the greater whole. Members of the third sex were never perscicuted or denied basic rights. Vedic rishis recognized that gay people existef and are a natural part of the world. Also reconigned the third sex for having their own dharma and roles in life. They were allowed to keep their own town quarters, live together, marry and engage in all means of life.  " There are also third sex citzens, sometimes greatly attached to one another and with complete faith in one another, who get married together." (Kama Sutra 2.9.36)  Gay men could openly blend with society or could dress and behave as a female. Third sex individuals could work as barbers or heir stylist, masseurs, and house servents. Some did engage in various type of prostitution.






Third sex citizens were categorized according to weather their physical characteristics were either male or female. Kilba for gay males and Svairini for lesbians. Each were devised in two depending upon their behaviors either masculine or feminine.  Gays are the most prominent member of the third sex. While appering as ordinary males,  their third nature identity is only revealed by there romantic and sexual attraction for persons of the same sex. it was shown that gay men experience the same attraction normally felt by females and lesbians experience the attraction orbinary felt by males. Some also do commenly exhibit cross gender attractions.
As stated earlier third sex citizens have their own dhramas in roles in society. Some examples are if two men of the first sex or straight men engage in gay sex out of convience (like prison) its considered wrong because it is agsnist thier nature. Also if a man of the third sex marries and sleeps with a woman in order to br perceived as normal and have children. It is adharmic because it is agsinist his nature.






Not a whole lot has changed since the Vedic era. Although most people thing of the third sex as hijra's or transgendered. Even some of my friends especially when I told them I was writing about the third sex. Although in modern day more people think of gays differently and have great hatred towards us, and ponder whether we should be about of society.  Some of us stay in the closet and try to live a double life. They get married and try to blend in society. Others come out and deal with tanting or mean words. Or even when they do come out are still forced to get married. I wonder what changed in society some say the colonial period in India with 377 changed the views on how people felt about gays and the third sex. With their views that gays are unnatural it changed a world. 






Thank you for reading and have to mention some of my sources http://glbt-hindus.livejournal.com and check out Tritiya-Prakriti: People of the Third Sex by Amara Das Wilhelm. Tell me how you feel about people of the third sex? What are your views? And would you want to live in a time like this, also what do you think has changed in society about the third sex?

Living a Third Sex Life

People express their fearfulness and ignorance of gay people. Arguing that we are unnatural or against nature. Imagine a place where no one cared who you love, or even judged you for loving the person you are with. Or even able to marry the one you love, without someone snickering in the background or being mistreated. Imagine a place where you were not force to marry a women but could openly marry a man. a place where people didn't try to take away your basic right. If you can imagine such a world then your not far from reality; there was a time when no cared who you loved.

During the Vedic era in India there were three sex groups first or straight males,  second was women, and the third was the neutral. The third sex or tritiya-prakriti are considered neutral gender or napumsaka because they did not engage in procreation. Napumsaka was divided into five groups: children, the elderly, the impotent, the celibate, and the third sex. The third sex which include gays, lesbians, transgender, inter-sex, and bisexual. Each are considered sexual neutral by Vedic definition and were protected and believed to bring good luck. In ancient Vedic society everyone was integrated as a part of the greater whole. Members of the third sex were never persecuted or denied basic rights. Vedic rishi's recognized that gay people existed and are a natural part of the world. Also reconsigned the third sex for having their own dharma and roles in life. They were allowed to keep their own town quarters, live together, marry and engage in all means of life.  " There are also third sex citizens, sometimes greatly attached to one another and with complete faith in one another, who get married together." (Kama Sutra 2.9.36)  Gay men could openly blend with society or could dress and behave as a female. Third sex individuals could work as barbers or heir stylist, masseurs, and house servants. Some did engage in various type of prostitution.

Third sex citizens were categorized according to weather their physical characteristics were either male or female. Kilba for gay males and Svairini for lesbians. Each were devised in two depending upon their behaviors either masculine or feminine.  Gays are the most prominent member of the third sex. While appearing as ordinary males,  their third nature identity is only revealed by there romantic and sexual attraction for persons of the same sex. it was shown that gay men experience the same attraction normally felt by females and lesbians experience the attraction ordinary felt by males. Some also do commonly exhibit cross gender attractions. As stated earlier third sex citizens have their own dhramas in roles in society. Some examples are if two men of the first sex or straight men engage in gay sex out of convince (like prison) its considered wrong because it is against their nature. Also if a man of the third sex marries and sleeps with a woman in order to be perceived as normal and have children. It is adharmic because it is against his nature.

Not a whole lot has changed since the Vedic era. Although most people thing of the third sex as hijra's or transgender. Even some of my friends especially when I told them I was writing about the third sex. Although in modern day more people think of gays differently and have great hatred towards us, and ponder whether we should be about of society.  Some of us stay in the closet and try to live a double life. They get married and try to blend in society. Others come out and deal with taunting or mean words. Or even when they do come out are still forced to get married. I wonder what changed in society some say the colonial period in India with 377 changed the views on how people felt about gays and the third sex. With their views that gays are unnatural it changed a world.

Thank you for reading and have to mention some of my sources http://glbt-hindus.livejournal.com and check out Tritiya-Prakriti: People of the Third Sex by Amara Das Wilhelm. Tell me how you feel about people of the third sex? What are your views? And would you want to live in a time like this, also what do you think has changed in society about the third sex?