Protect Me from What I Want

I am always on the hunt for any gay oriented short film that showcases the gay South Asian community. Always feel in the media we are often overlooked. So it's refreshing to see a short film or any film for that matter about gay South Asians and others.  While countless hours searching for the short film Amen,  which I have yet to find. I stumbled on "Protect Me from What I Want"  Directed by Dominic Leclerc, starring Naveed Choudhry and Elliott Tittensor from shameless.
"Protect Me" follows the story Saleem (Naveed Choudhry) an Indian student from Leeds living with his parents. While at a cruising spot meets Daz (Elliott Tittensor),  and they both have a night of enjoyable sex. While Saleem feels ashamed of what he has done, however on the next day lends a smile to Daz upon leaving. 
Tell me what you think of "Protect Me from What I Want"  and if your first experience was anything like Saleem and Daz, mine was far from being as staged and as sensual. But nonetheless was nice.  As always rate, comment, share, like and enjoy! Xoxo

Check out the Short Film here! 

Fun Magazine

Gay Prince of Rajipipla Manavendra Singh Gohil, who has become the face of gay rights and gay related issues India,  published his first magazine for gays called 'Fun'. The magazine highlights India's gay lifestyle.  The magazine also talks about gay fashion, gadgets and gizmos that gays like, as well as health, sexually, and other issues relating to men who like men! Enjoy some shirtless models from Fun Magazine.  And as always rate comment and share. 

The Amazing Abu Nuwas

Feel honored and proud to introduce Abu Nuwas, known as the first Islamic poet. Born around 756, and is considered one of the greatest writers of classical Arabic literature. Nuwas handsome looks and flowing hair attracted the poet Waliba Ibn Al-Hubab ans the two became lovers. Nuwas mainly wrote erotic love poems (mudhakkarat and mujuniyyat) about beautiful men. Here is just a few of his poems, they are simple yet beautiful. 

Love in Bloom

I die of love for him, perfect in every way

Lost in the strains of wafting music. 

My eyes are fixed upon his delightful body, 

And i do not wonder at his beauty. 

His waist is a sapling, and his face a moon, 

And loveliness rolls of his rosy cheek

I die of love for you, but but keep this secret:

The time that binds us is an unbreakable rope. 

How much time did your creations take, o angel? 

So what! All i want is to sing your praises. 

(Love in Bloom;after Monteil, p. 95)

O Desire

Are not this child's eyes all fire? 

O desire, 

Feel the flush of the eggs

Between his legs! 

Dearest, and seize what you can seize, 

If you please;

Fill your boyish fist with me

And then see

Will it go a little way, 

Just in play? 

In the Bath-House

In the bath-house, 

the mysteries hidden by trousers are revealed to you. 

All becomes radiantly manifest, 

Feast your eyes without restraint! 

You see handsome buttocks, shapely trip torsos, 

You hear the guys whispering pious formulas to another

("God is Great!" "Praise be to God!") 

Ah, what a palace of pleasure is the bath-house! 

Even when the towel-bearers

Come in and spoil the fun and bit. 

As always rate, comment, and share. And and for more poems send me an email. 

Social networks a curse or a blessing?

Has Social networks improved or hurt gay life or is it somewhere in between?

 Social networks has been a driving force that either brings us together to feel we are in a way apart of a community; and at times can tear us apart, if not used right. To me social media is one of the greatest tools that we can use. Not only do you find others who share in the same interests as you, but it's also great way to share and inform and break down walls that divide us. Last year social media like Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr and others were a driving force for three states to sign into law marriage equality. Michael Cole-Schwartz, director of media efforts for the Human Rights Campaign stated, "That we win these fights because Americans know that LGBT people are their neighbors, their cousins, their aunts and uncles, the people they sit next to in church, and the people they shop with at the grocery store." Social networks have made the invisible become visible, but it also has granted those with a negative voice to hide and become anonymous bullies. Networks have also created relationships and friendships from across the globe. Changed and enriched views on cultures and brought a light on hidden gays. Where would we be without the success of blogs and books about men living on the down low; or which celebrity has finally come out of the closet.

 Gay youth seem to be coming out younger and younger these days. I remember before the rise of Facebook and everyone was still on MySpace while cell phones still looked like a bricks and texting along with touch screens were still an imagination. Coming out was a daunting task and still is for so many, it is never like the movies. There were not many support groups other than PFLAG (Parents, Friends, of Lesbian and Gays), that you would lean on . While friends and family at times were misinformed and lead by rumors. Social networks can lead a double edged sword when it comes to coming out. At one hand we have a growing online community, immediate access to help and resources to make a newbie or even seasoned gays feel safe . The community is extremely important, not only does it become a safety net cause you are surrounded by others who are like minded. It also gives protection against others who wish to harm. Recently, the tension between gay youth and non gay youth seems to be slowly improving however, it is still a sore topic. With efforts like the Trevor project and other online community gay youths can receive the help that they need. While being reassured that life does get better as you get older. Social networks not only create a safety net, but it also created a different type of community, and changed the gay community.

 Twitter, Facebook, Tumblr, and Google+, to name a few; have connected the gay community differently than before. Now you can not only meet local gays and share experiences, go on dates, meet new friends. You can also share the human experience with someone across the world. Learn about different cultures, and share the similarities of being gay around the world. What I have gathered is that no matter where you live in the world being gay is still a hard topic for most. Weather you live in the most liberal places or the harshest against gays. There is always people who do on understand being gay and act on their intolerance. The difference is how society reacts as well as the government. In California social networks helped pass into law; the first in the nation, to ban therapies to 'cure' gay minors. Stating therapists can't provide minors with therapy intended to change their sexual orientation. The backlash of gay social networks is seen in the gay clubs and bars although has improved.

Gay social networks sites like Grindr, Jack'd, and Scruff, changed the way we find other gays as opposed to before with the whole "guessing game". Never knowing if the guy or girl you think is hot is into the same as you. Grindr and others changed the game, now you don't have to go up to someone and ask them if their gay but, now more just say hi and wait and see if someone answers back. Although Grindr and others have brought up some issues with gay on gay relations. You can read that here. Even with these issues the gay community has improved become stronger and spread tolerance like never before. Recently with the use of social networks and outreach programs my state Maryland and 2 other states legalized marriage equality or same sex marriage by popular vote, never happened before in America. Social networks have not only brought together the gay community and made some changes to modern gays. But had changed the views others have on gays.

 Social networks can when used right breaks down some of the stereotypes many feel gays are like. Mainstream media sometimes likes to reinforced some of these stereotypes. With popular shows and reality TV, that seem to only want the typical gay that was introduced long ago, that is funny and sassy, and has attitude, and maybe a little sway and the gay voice. While not all of us are like this it does bring gay life and issues to the dinner table. Now you don't have to go face to face and say "hi, I'm gay, will you still be my friend?" Now you can just make a status update and say "I'm gay!!" While waiting for the likes and comments of friends and peers. Social media and networks can give a voice to those who normally don't have one . It can make a person who doesn't feel loved, feel loved from others and feel as though they matter in the world. Harris interactive researched 2,412 US adults (18+) the LGBT community is more active on social networks than heterosexuals. Aside from being more active on Facebook and Twitter, Facebook they also are more likely to read blogs, and as a result most likely to be receptive to social media. In the coming future as our influence on social media grows tolerance and understanding grows outside. More and more people can be honest about who they are even if it's only online..Social networks has in fact helped the gay community come together and to address issues that are inside the community.

Tell me do you think social media has helped or hurt the gay community? Send your comments below.

Gay In Bombay: The Life and Times of Rahul

Something I thought I should share.. I put quotes on it, but it is a copy so enjoy and send comments. 

"Hey guys! I’m Rahul. Yes baba, it is my real name. I’m a young, good looking, cute, straight-acting, straight-looking Indian gay guy. Nobody knows about my secret gay life. That is why I will tell you my “real” real name only after I have known you for at least 3 weeks or 3 blow jobs whichever is earlier. Actually make that 10 BJs. 3 BJs sometimes happens in a day no? 

 

Why am I not telling you my real name? Arrey yaar, I have to take these precautions so that nobody comes to know I’m gay. You may be wondering why I’m declaring here that I am gay when I do not want anyone to find out? I have not told you my real name so you really do not know I’m gay. Simple! We gay boys in India are very clever that way. 

 

We do a lot of things to hide our gay identity and yet manage to be the gayest of them all. How do we do that? You must be asking this I know. Have patience. I will tell you. That is why I am here for. 

 

It is easy actually. Look at Facebook for example. Every gay guy worth his salty sweat has at least 1 additional profile apart from his “straight” profile. There lies a whole parallel gay world on Facebook with all the gay profiles that straight people can never see. The straight profile of a gay guy is meant only for his straight friends. You know the ones who like to fondle other guys only when they are drunk. Not the real gay guys obviously. Of course sometimes the straight profile also has gay friends but those are their “straight” profiles too so no one knows anyone is gay except for us gays. There are no gays in India you see? *wink wink* 

 

Accha, so what else do we do to hide our gay identities? We all are straight-acting and straight-looking! That is our biggest Goli. Yes, even the straight guys do not know what straight-acting or looking is but we, the secretly gay guys, have mastered that art. I cannot really explain to you what it is as it is a very fine and delicate art. It cannot be explained in words. It can only be lived and experienced. We do it with such élan and finesse that the straight people cannot even begin to imagine it. We do so much straight-acting that even the mothers of other straight-acting gay guys like us. This is what makes us so popular with the ladies you see. Along with their straight sons when they are drunk. 

 

Aur what do we do? There are a hundred different things yaar. If I tell you everything then our identities will be easily revealed na? OK, if you insist I will tell you a few more. 

 

One more thing that we do is to look down on effeminate gay guys. Girlish guys. Yes, we do not tolerate effeminate guys. They bring a bad name to us gays by their effeminate behavior. They do not care for anything and always act like their real self. They do not pretend and do not do any straight-acting. They are always oh-so-open about everything. Very straight forward. How awful is that! That is why all of us straight-acting hidden gays look down on them. We make it a point to mention this on all our profiles in bold too. 

 

Then there is our famous collective hatred for uncles. Who are the uncles you may ask. Arrey baba, any guy older than 30 is an uncle. Specially if he looks that old and has a mustache. These are guys like us only but they are most likely to be bisexuals who are married but don’t like having sex with their wives and mistresses. They like to have sex with us only. We do not like these guys unless they shower us with gifts. The gifts change the equation a little bit. Our tolerance level for them then changes. See, with gifts, they are showing us they are very good friends and of course we have to be more accommodating of our friends no? 

 

So what more do the hidden, straight-acting, effeminate intolerant, uncle-hating gay guys do? Money-seekers! We absolutely hate them. These guys are the absolute worst of the lot. They are always clear that they are looking for money in exchange for sex. They make me wince by their honesty. We gay guys have lots of sex with a lot of people. Sometimes with uncles too but we never expect money from anyone. From uncles we just expect great weekends at expensive hotels or resorts, dinners at fine-dine places and of course a little bit of shopping. Even from other regular non-uncle gay guys we only expect them to pay the CCD bills. But money? NEVER! Those stupid money seekers make me sick by their direct and straightforward asking-for-money approach. Do they not have any morals at all? 

 

Now you might be wondering that if we are such a great hidden society that no one knows about, how do we recognize each other? It is very easy yaaron. Gaydar! No no, I’m not talking about the website where we spend a lot of time. We have a very instinctive instinct that tells us who is a gay guy and who is not. This ability of ours is very uncanny. Just one look at someone and we know. Yes, that’s right. 

 

This ability is how we know that 90% of all good looking Bollywood male celebs are gay. Just one look tells us. You have seen Salman Khan no? Yes yes, we *know* him. Then there is Shahrukh Khan. And Aamir Kan. And Saif Khan. And Ranveer Singh. And Ranbir Kapoor. And Shahid Kapoor. And Imran Khan. And believe it or not, even Imran Hashmi! Yes friends, we know all about them because of our Gaydar. It never fails. Sure sure these guys have girlfriends, wives, hidden female lovers and they keep on kissing stupid girls on and off screen. They do that because they are very good at being hidden and secret na. We are proud of this quality of ours. 

 

Chalo Bhaiyon, now my time is up. Mayan told me to write a blog post as he does not get a lot of time these days so I thought I will tell you something very explosive. I’m sure you all must be reeling from all the sensational exposé about secret hidden Indian gay guys. Till you started reading my post you did not even know something like this existed and now you are stunned that we exist, na? I will come back with more about myself and our hidden society soon. Until then *mwah*!"

Gay In Bombay: The Life and Times of Rahul - 1
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Big Boy Mayan

Matt Dallas

How many remember the show Kyle XY, the boy that was missing his belly button. I lived for this teen drama when I was younger, it actually was very good show sadly was canceled.. But recently the beautiful eyed deep voice heartthrob made headlines all over the social media world. Not only did he make my teen heart wish by coming out, also announce his engagement to musician Blue Hamilton... Congratulations to both of them. Check out the pics below and like always comment and like.

Diamonds in Africa

"Being gay is not a Western Invention, it is a Human reality." -Hillary Clinton

Just recently two of of my dear good friends tied the knot in a beautiful ceremony in Cape Town, South Africa. It was a beautiful summer ceremony under the warm sun, and overlooking the breathtaking blue ocean. Even though i could not be there in person for various reasons the cost and not having a passport yet, but those are only minor details. The wedding was superb such a beautiful moment. While the wedding was  grand it made me think what is gay life like in South Africa. If it was similar to its commonwealth partner India, or similar to modern day United States or hellish like present day Uganda where gays are killed and terrorized. I was pleasantly surprised that it was like neither, although there are similarities to India and United States its so much its own. A total diamond in the ruff for gay rights laws and protection. Like most growing countries with a strong gay community there is always animosity and discrimination.

South Africa was the first country to constitutionally outlaw discrimination based on sexual orientation. Also in December of 2006 South Africa became the fifth country in the world, and the first in Africa which is notorious for being anti gay, legalizing same sex marriage. Like many commonwealth countries South Africa had its own version of the immorality act which prevented men from having sex with other men, sodomy and other "unnatural" sexual offences. Also, prohibiting men from engaging in any erotic conduct when more than two people present, all of which was punishable by jail time. During this time gay men adopted Gayle or Gail language, which is slang based on English and Afrikaans language. An example is "Varda that Beulah! Vast mitzi. She's a chicken and probably Priscilla and I don't need Jennifer Justice in my life right now." translates as "Look at that beauty! Very me. He's young and probably a policeman and I don't need trouble with the law in my life at the moment."

In the 70's and 80's LGBT activism became a part of the human rights movement within the nation. With small groups dedicating their efforts to LGBT rights male same sex relations and conduct became legalized in 1994. Followed by South Africa becoming the first jurisdiction in the world to provide constitutional protection to LGBT people, also disallowing discrimination on race, gender, sexual orientation and other grounds in 1996. More efforts soon followed with a Transsexual persons allowed to change their legal gender. Gays and lesbians can serve openly in the military, joint and step parent adoption since 2002, same sex marriage legalized in 2006. And the age of consent is equalized for gays and straights in 2007. Also allowing gay men to donate blood within a 6 month period. A groundbreaking moment occurred this year when South Africa became the first country in the world to officially recognize the gay flag.

While legally and constitutionally equality is ensured for gays and others part of community. Social acceptance is generally lacking in rural areas and in the eastern half of the country. There have been numerous cases in which in which gay women have been the victim of murder, beating, and or "corrective" rape. Human rights activists have pointed out that many men believe that lesbians pose a threat on the traditional male authority, also the male rapist purport to raping lesbian victims with intent to "cure" her of her sexual orientation. While South Africa has no official hate crime legislation, Human rights watchdogs have condemned the continued impunity and accused government of turning a blind eye  on murders or rapes in a homophobic manner. Watchdogs believe much of the sexism and homophobia that erupts is tied to male frustration with unemployment and poverty. It has been documented that more than 30 women have been killed in South Africa based on their sexuality.

South Africa, like many countries have incidents of homophobia, it has become one of the top gay destinations. Gay people in major urban areas like Johannesburg, Pretoria, Durban and Cape Town are readily accepted and have a thriving gay nightlife. Cultural, arts, sports, and outdoor activities play a major part in everyday South African gay life. Annual gay pride events in Johannesburg and Cape Town are held, and Krysna hosts the yearly Pink Loerle Mardi Gras which attracts gay people around the country. Even smaller cities like Bloem Fontein, Port Elizabeth and East London are gay friendly. Locally produced television programs have also focused on gay right with the success of soap opera Edgi and Generations featuring  long term gay relationship and addressing gay issues like homophobia and race relations.

Planning a trip? South Africa has a reputation as Africa's most gay friendly destination attracting thousands of tourists annually. In recent years South Africa became the first country in Africa to open openly gay hotels, the Amsterdam Guest House located in Cape Town. The Hotel manager Lourens Botha, pointed out "In South Africa we have had our own challenges under Apartheid you could not admit being gay. you would have been persecuted and imprisoned... Which is what now is happening in other parts of Africa, however liberty allows South Africa to help other African gays." “Today I run a hotel where gay men from all over Africa come and feel comfortable. they are astonished at how relaxed things are here... in their home country they face persecution, violence, and even death but here if only on holiday they can be free." In 2011 South Africa was rated third most wanted gay travel destinations. Cape Town where 10% of all tourist who visit are gay, won as worldwide favorite gay destination with over 200,000 gay tourist and holidayed in Cape Town.

South Africa, has come a long way with the oppression of Apartheid to its current stand on human rights and LGBT rights. At a time being gay was outlawed in the country where as now companies seeks out gay professionals to work in their companies openly under the “Pink&Rand”. While animosity from religious groups are still prevalent many religious leaders have voiced their support for the South African LGBT community. people like Archbishop Desmond Tutu and Dr. Allan Boesak are strong vocal supporters of gay rights in South Africa. South Africa has become a forerunner for gay rights and diamond in Africa. They are leading the way for equality and changing their country for the better. There are some that want to revert back to times when gays were not free and many were oppressed. To me the west can learn from the South Africa, how they collectively changed their nation legally. just like the west minds have yet to be changed, but their slowly changing with the exposure of gays and lesbians. Although here in the states many lesbians are not raped by men, we do have hate crimes that happen daily and gay bashing is still a prevalent problem. Even in the large cities where most would feel things like that does not happen. Recently the United nations stated progressive attitudes in South Africa as well as Argentina, India, Spain and Mexico have attracted the gay market in droves. Tell me how you feel would you like to travel to South Africa? or how you feel about South Africa and its progressive gay culture!

Delhi Pride!!

Delhi just celebrated it's annual pride festival and walk!! If you got a chance to go, share your story!! Send a comment below!! Happy pride!!

Vidur Kapur part 2

Vidur Kapur - Part 2 by galaksy

Vidur Kapur - Part 1

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Gay straight alliance

So I cant actually understand the video and couldn't find any subtitles, but its really good and has a good message, message me if you can translate it!!

Love and life

The Mean Girl Effect

Gay on gay bullying, prejudice and what nots..

We all have seen it, well if you haven't you have to check it out on Netflix. Mean Girls, is a story about a young girl from South Africa  who travels to America to attend public school. Desperately trying to fit in she discovers how similar high school is to animals in the wild. Throughout her journey she realize all we are searching for is acceptance and love. She also noticed how everywhere has their on clique there is always the plastics, and the Goth or "emo" now a days. Not sure if punk is still a thing. And bring the new one we desperately try to fit in at any means necessary. But what happens when the group you feel the most comfortable with doesn't make you feel welcome. What happens when you run to your safe haven for comfort from prejudice and bullying and you find the same?

Bullying has not just become an external issue, it is also internal and it is ugly. The gay community can be at times not welcoming to its own. Gay on gay bullying is an issue that is rarely addressed, most LGBT organizations would rather address straight on gay bullying but never its own. Most LGBT groups see the bigger issue is heterosexual acceptance of us; comments Dawn the Self Esteem Queen, a 33 year old motivational speaker, author, and teen mentor in the Los Angeles area. "Its a travesty to me" Dawn says " there is so much hatred in the LGBT community that we would never have to be bully by the heterosexual community.. We want to be accepted by the heterosexual world but within your own world, your not accepting each other." Coming out is a hard enough if not daunting task, however some gays loose their self identity, they believe they have to fit within labels of the community and act a certain way in order to fit in. It is not enough to say "i am a lesbian,  I'm gay, I'm transgender, I'm bisexual. If your definition is not the same as theirs ( other LGBT peoples) definition, then there is bullying, there has become so much divide by these titles." Being a gold star cis-gay male¹  is the best way to get in the "queer country club". However those who may identify themselves outside of the strict guidelines of homosexuality can find themselves to be considered a second class citizen. The only thing worse than being marginalizes is being further marginalizes within a group that is suppose to offer support. Gay media seems to act as though these issues are confined to older gay population, and the young modern gay are about inclusively. Sadly it is not all true, many times you hear friends saying they could never date a bisexual guy or a transgender individual. Creating a bridge in the gay community which is suppose to be a safe haven to all who feel different. Opinions against bisexuals, transgender's, and other gay individuals sometimes is the result of deep seated prejudices that needs to be addressed.

Many of times gay on gay bully happens online or in person from a person who is not comfortable about there own sexuality.  Dr. Gary Howell, Tampa Fla. and Illinois psychological associations chair of sexual orientation issues section, explains that gay on gay bullies often occurs when the bully is hiding his homosexuality. " they bully to keep from being found out... they're trying to protect themselves." Which the clinical term is reaction formation, a defensive mechanism when a person goes to the extreme to avoid anxiety and to feel safe. The flip side is when a heterosexual male is secure with his sexuality, they are comfortable around gay men, and do not participate in gay bullying.

Mobile dating has in a way transformed the lives of gay men worldwide. You can be on a desolate island, home depot (like you would catch me at home depot), church, or even on another date to easily find someone near by or far away to meet or even marry, depending on where you live. However online dating can be a emotional battlefield for anyone who feels like they are too skinny, fat, too ethnic, not enough ethnic, to hairy, to feminine or girly, or even the dreaded one too old. Which in the gay world seems like anything over 30. The newer gay designated social media sites has changed the way we date, we are judged by our profile picture. It seems if your not borderline breaking this rules of the app you are unnoticed.  Or an easy trigger for an angry gay looking for their next prey.  Some guys think of nothing than attacking each other publicly and proudly with profiles filled with knife cutting put downs.  One points out " i block more Asians than the great wall of China" or the usual "no fatties, or daddies. Creeps, fur balls, queens... etc. Times like these gay dating becomes more like a high school cafeteria than the fun loving gay community you see on TV. Ask yourself this when does personal preferences become racism?

We live in a time when being gay isn't easy. We also happen to live in the digital age, which had made bullying so much more prevalent, subtle, and pervasive in all aspects of gay life. While straight people may find it difficult to believe there is such a thing as gay on gay bullying.  The main issue is how separated we are. The cross category division is one of the factors that prevents gay rights movement from making more progress for equality. Addressing gay on gay bullying and prejudices with the help of straight allies is a strong key towards making progress. As our gay society is becoming more tech savvy and more outspoken we forget at times that we need to strive to accept us all. Strive for understanding of one another and accepting our own differences. The gay community is designed for being a safe haven a place of learning and understanding, not hate we already get enough hate from others, we don't need it from ourselves.  Tell me what you think of gay on gay bullying and prejudices.. do you feel like the gay community is one giant scene from mean girls?

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Almost 90% of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) students report being verbally harassed at school because of their sexual orientation LGBT teens experience homophobic remarks d harassment throughout the school day, creating an atmosphere where they feel disrespected, unwanted, and unsafe. Homophobic remarks such as "that's so gay" are the most commonly heard. These slurs are often unintentional. If you know someone who is being bullied reach out and help we have all been there.

Secret world of Pakistan

Nepal was the first country in south Asia decriminalization of homosexuality and the only to allow same sex marriage. Followed by India in 2009, although gay marriage is on the back burner. Both countries have made it easier to be free of repression, though socially life is still hard, and many still live in fear. Though socially change is slowly happening on views on homosexuality and people of the third gender. Pakistan has somewhat made its way to the middle. Legally homosexuality is still banned since 1860, and the law has yet to be repealed. Since the law has been in effect for so long there is social disapproval towards gays and other sexual minorities.  Pakistan is officially an Islamic republic, however practices mixed laws inherited from the British. As a result increasing liberalization trends and globalization and social tolerance. There have been many public gay parties taking place in the country and parties have been thriving for a number of years. With some progression in upper and middle class; Pakistan still does not have any civil rights laws to prohibit discrimination or harassment, and there is no legal recognition of same sex marriage or civil union. While the LGBT community has not formally begun to campaign for LGBT rights. However there is growing tolerance for social gatherings of gay men, in the cities and is seen as a historical move. In 2009, the Supreme Court of Pakistan ruled in favor of the civil rights of transsexual citizens.

Recently, Pakistan has seen an unprecedented explosion of "Queer Culture" and urban gay life style. With this new transformation of queer culture and gender roles have become increasingly visible in urban Pakistani males, with the rise of metro-sexuality. Metro-sexuality is nothing but liberalization of gender identities and roles. The things considered to be taboo for masculinity have gained acceptance in increasingly larger number of males. Fashion that once considered to be identification for gay men have become mainstream urban male fashion.  More men are wearing low rise jeans, bright and exotic colours, necklaces, rings, and waxing, which all can he traced to attire of underground gays in 1960's London. The media has also become increasingly aware of the value of the male figure. Many music videos have emerged. Pakistanis consciously or unconsciously to celebrate queer themes from western media. For the past few years gay culture has grown, while the impact has been strong on culture but political expression has been virtually non existent. BBC has noted that homosexuality is better of in Pakistan due to "don't ask don't tell" policy; that is a result of an age old tradition of tolerated social taboos and lack of political activism.

Television has also seen a slight change with the success of Ali Saleem and the emergence of "Begum Nawazish Ali" his alter ego. Ali's show subverts and challenges a lot of normal's and taboos of Pakistani society, and has become tolerated and even celebrated to an extent. Ali is known somewhat of a post modern phenomenon, that exhibits ambivalence not only to gender but also sexual orientation. In the show Ali, dresses up as a woman to become Begum Nawazish Ali, and flirts with cute lads that are searching for a bride. Ali has described himself as being bisexual, but sometimes refers himself as gay or "try-sexual", currently he is rarely seen as male but as a woman. With the phenomenon of Ali Saleem, and the media's growing acceptance and tolerance as well as the efflux of many young men who have studied in the west, have helped increase awareness of gay as an identity. Various "underground" gay events and parts arise in urban area like Karachi, Lahore, and Islamabad, reported in the Guardian UK: "Under a starry sky filled with fireworks, about 150 gay men clambered to the roof of an apartment building for an exuberant party. Bollywood music spilled into the streets as dress-wearing men twisted and whirled flamboyantly. Some older men with mustaches and wearing traditional shalwar kameez stared silently from the sidelines. But most of the party goers were in their 20's, dressed in jeans and t-shirt and looking for a good time. "We just want to have fun," said one of the organizers, known as the "hot boyz'" While the guardian has only reported on "one" gay party, dozens happen and are easier to orchestrate due to cell phones and internet access, sites like Facebook and planet Romeo have not only formed a community but also made it easier for cruising. While there are dozens of cruising spots in major cities like Lawrence gardens in Lahore and Eypo center in Karachi. This internet explosion has transformed the urban Pakistani gay culture, making it introverted, safe and "invisible". There exist numerous of forums, online communities and websites. An anonymous spectator said "this new culture has caused a devastating blow to "gay liberation" because most urban gays don't feel a need to be "liberated."

Urban middle class phenomenon, exist because of a very strong traditions, the society as a whole is more tolerant to same gender showing affection. A lot of homo-eroticism is evident in society raging from "horse play" and "male bonding". Two sources indicate that cultured practices that displays of affection between members of the same gender, make it possible for gay men to socialize without attracting attention. However homosexuality is silently accepted in Pakistan assaults on gays are rare, in the countries north west frontier province is apparently well known that ethnic Pashtun men,  take young boy's as lovers which is a practice now deeply embedded in local culture.

In Pakistan while the upper and middle class created a sort of "gay utopia" the real plight of Pakistan has drowned in gay activity, because the upper class has always lived a underground life. While Ali Saleem interviews interview and rub shoulders with the most powerful and pious of Pakistanis. However the majority "cross dresser" community of Pakistan, the hijras lead the life of poverty, shame, and humiliation. The urban middle class boys easily live a dual life of marrying a girl and dancing in a gay party at night. But the poor gay men in smaller cities, and villages live in hell of denial, temptation, torture, suicide, and murder. The result of this conflicts between religious fanaticism or personalization and death. Pakistanis gay life is divided while upper middle class has more freedoms lower still live in fear or family finding out of there sexuality, bring shame to the family name or death from a family member. Although life is slowly getting better everything is still in secret. Leave your comments below! Thanks for reading!!! >Source: http://perfumechowk.blogspot.com (Shaheryar Ali); UNHCR: A report into state of homosexuality in Pakistan.